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Deciding what you want in life, in a relationship and in a sexual relationship is critical if you are going to get the happiness you deserve. It’s right to focus on what you want; if you don’t do it no-one else will do it for you.
That’s not to say you should be selfish, and ignore other people or hurt them to get what you want, but it’s important to have goals. As you focus on your goals and aspirations in life your subconscious, working on your behalf, will set about making it happen.
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Whatever you’re looking for in a relationship whether that’s emotional or sexual, set guidelines for yourself: “I must have this. I want more of that. I’m no longer prepared to tolerate this. That has no part anymore in my relationship”. Set the bar high to what you want and as you focus on what you want you’ll find ways to achieve that with your current partner, or if your partner is not prepared to change then you must consider which of the three life strategies you follow: Accept Change or Leave.
Loving is Giving
To truly love is to give freely without any thought of what you’ll get in return. Focusing on what you want does not mean taking a selfish view; it’s aspirational rather than selfish. How great does it feel when you help a total stranger, someone you’ll never see again who’ll never be able to repay your kindness? The advice “Loving is giving” works for your partner too. If he or she does not give love in return for the love you freely give to them, then it’s time to question what you want from your relationship. It is fair that when one partner gives love freely, that the other parter should return that love, also just as freely and without conditions.
Emotional and Sexual Love
Focusing on what you want, may lead you to decide you want supportive, emotional love and passionate, sexual love. Both are needed in a successful relationship. When you decide on your list of “must haves and must not haves” share them with your partner. Understanding what you and your partner want from your relationship begins with communication.
If your needs and aspirations are similar to your partner then this website can help. If you have very different views, beliefs and values then you may choose another route to resolve these, such a counselling organisation.
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