Female arousal is a complex subject with psychological and physiological factors.

In general a woman needs to feel desirable, attractive, appreciated and (possibly) loved to become aroused.




To be fully aroused she needs sexual foreplay for 5-20 minutes in order for her to reach a sexual plateau at which point she can have an orgasm if sufficiently simulated.

Women make an effort to feel and look attractive
Women generally need to feel desirable and attractive in order to become aroused. Many images of pretty, slim, young women bombard us everyday from TV to board advertisements to magazines. In order to “compete”, to feel and look attractive, many women will keep to a diet, work out at the gym, have their hair done, spend time buying the right clothes, wear make-up and so-on, always in a effort to look their best.

When she doesn’t feel good
If a woman doesn’t feel good about herself she’ll take longer to become aroused or may not become aroused at all. If she feels plain, overweight, unattractive or any other negative emotion she won’t be easily aroused. It’s so important for a guy to give his women compliments and to say how much he loves her for her to feel psychologically good and psychologically aroused.

A stressful life doesn’t help arousal
External factors such as stress, a poor relationship with her man, or other situational factors such as chores left undone, chores still to do, may mean it’s difficult for her to become aroused or even interested in sex. Guys, if the house is a tip and she prides herself on a tidy house don’t expect her to forget it and come to bed for some “fun”. Young children can be very effective at reducing arousal; it’s difficult for a woman to feel aroused if she’s worn out looking after one or more children, and perhaps holding down a job as well.

Alcohol, drugs and arousal
Some prescription drugs, such as anti-depressants, can affect arousal or may prevent a woman from having orgasm, even though she may be aroused. Alcohol may loosen inhibitions and enable a woman to feel more aroused, but of course too much can prevent her from reaching orgasm. This is because alcohol can act as an anaesthetic and effectively de-sensitise her.

Aphrodisiacs
People have sought out aphrodisiacs through the ages. It’s been a belief since Roman times that certain foods, such as oysters, can cause someone, man or woman to become aroused. From a scientific perspective there is little scientific proof that any aphrodisiacs work, though if someone believes they will become aroused by something they eat or drink then it may well become true for them in their situation. The brain will believe almost anything you tell it, if you believe it with emotional conviction.

See your Doctor if you, or your partner, has arousal problems
Lack of arousal for whatever reason can become a major problem in a relationship. If this becomes a problem in your relationship then it’s worth a trip to see your doctor. They may be able to identify the source of the problem or point you in the direction of a therapist specialising in this area.

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