Only 7% of our total communication is through words, 38% is through the tonality we use (the way we say those words), and the remainder, over 50% is through body language.

In lovemaking it’s no different, whether that’s the non-sexual foreplay part or the part when we’re in bed making love.

Talking and listening
There's a saying that we have two ears and one mouth so we can listen twice as much as we talk. For many people it's the other way round. Yet listening is a magnificent skill if we can develop it. Thy this as an exercise: the next time someone is talking to you passionately about something, don't interrup. Fix your eyes on them as if you're entranced. Wait till they've finished. Then leave a gap of 3 -4 seconds as though you're really considering what they've said.

Give them considered feedback
Then say "What I think you're saying..." or "What I'm hearing is ..." then summarise what they just said back to them. It's incredibly powerful. The other person is very impressed, and if it's your partner he/she will completely won over by your intense concentration.

It can be a subtle sexual signal as well. Both sexes like being listened to by someone they find attractive. If it's the person who loves you he/ she may well feel quite passionately about you after your "active listening".


Focus more and read the signs
It's easier to read the signs of arousal if you focus intently on the other person. Apparently poker players learn to read tiny changes in body language (the "tells") and can read the other persons cards through that behaviour. Learn the signs of sexual arousal in your partner, and by reading those signs you can tell if you're getting them turned on.

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• The Freeze
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• Orgasmic Triggers
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• Penetrative Foreplay
  Put her in a "Sensual Trance"